Category Archives: Marriage


A dear friend asked me to compile my list of recommended reading for counseling couples.  Here is what I sent him:

An eclectic, odd, but hopefully wise list of reading recommendations for premarital (and marital!) couples:

The Mystery of Marriage by Mike Mason

This is not your typical “how to” marriage book which is what makes it so good.  Beautiful writing combined with wonderful insights.

Good Christians, Good Husbands?  By Doreen Moore

Granted, there is bias with my recommendation, but professors at three seminaries now use it, a CEO told me it was one of the best books he’s ever read, and J.I. Packer said this:

“Resourced by thorough research into the marriages of Wesley, Whitefield and Edwards, this is a truly wise book on the problem of combining ministry and marriage to the glory of God and the good of all concerned.”

John Adams by David McCullough

Well, not the whole thing (!), though it is an incredible read.  Rather, for the correspondence between John and Abigail.

Booked by Karen Swallow Prior

Actually, it is just one chapter from Karen’s terrific book, the one on Madame Bovary.  After I interviewed Karen, I told her I wished every couple in America would read that chapter.  They would learn to have a better and more mature view of love.

The Contrarian’s Guide to Leadership by Steven Sample

I know, it seems like a book on business leadership, but it really is a book to help you develop discernment and wisdom.   It offers sage counsel on how to navigate the choppy waters of American life. 

Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas

I have read several of Gary’s books.   Even though this is not one of my favorites of his, there are some important themes he covers.



Actress Gwyneth Paltrow and musician Chris Martin recently announced they are “consciously uncoupling.”  

Apart from the euphemism for divorce, my wife had an interesting insight.  The word couple, though used by many of us Christians, is not a great word for depicting marriage. Sure, we are still two persons coming together, but Christians hold to the union of one flesh.  The word couple focuses too much to two distinct persons.